A Review of “Unbroken Brain” — People have often asked me to recommend a book about addiction. For thirty years, the only one I ever urged people to read has been the Big Book of AA, written eighty years ago, when we knew next to nothing about addiction. …

All too often, people who know what they want, fail to get it, not because their partner is unwilling, but because they ask for it in a manner that starts a fight. If you’ve been following along as I describe the road to reconciliation and dealt first with your own…

Getting hurt sucks. You’ll want to move on. Before you can, you’ll need to know where to go. What is it that you want, exactly? If your wife has been sleeping with another man, you might not know how to heal. It’s not like she can undo what she did…

Of all the figures in shrinkdom, Freud is the most revered and reviled, the most quoted and misquoted, and the most influential and ignored. It used to be that every shrink wanted to be like him. Now we want to challenge him and be as different as we can. Perhaps…

Something called Restorative Justice is beginning to appear in the court system. It also has a place in personal relationships when there has been an injury and trust needs to be repaired. This is how restorative justice works in the court system: A kid gets caught with a can of…

You caught your husband on Ashley Madison, making arrangements to meet another woman. You’re outraged. You want him to make it right. But, what’s right? There are three ways of looking at justice, otherwise known as what’s right. There’s a fair share, fair play, and just desserts. A fair share Distributive justice is…

Some things are not worth complaining about; but many of the things that are, are never addressed. For every person who carps about every little thing there’s another person who stuffs his indignation. Sometimes it’s the same person who carps and stuffs; complaining about a hundred little things that don’t…

If you and someone you love have hurt one another and you’ve done your part to address your share of the problem, you might be wondering, what about the harm that was done to me? When will my partner take responsibility for what he’s done? Can’t he and I work…

You can control these factors, but don’t attempt to control the people. — Some places are therapeutic, meaning they bring out the best in people; others bring out the worst. If you need an example of those that consistently bring out the worst, think of a maximum-security prison, a busy highway, the cafeteria of a middle school, or the parents’ bleachers at a…