Wreckage on the Road to Reconciliation
To stay on the Road to Reconciliation, and not drive off over the cliffs on either side, you first must acknowledge your hurt, then set it aside. You must recognize that you were a victim, but don’t play the victim. Avoid forgiving cheaply, but don’t be such a fool that…
Wreckage on the Road to Reconciliation
I’m glad I didn’t decide to be an experimental psychologist. If I had, I might’ve had to lock dogs up in cages and shock them for the sake of science. As it is, others can do it and we can benefit from the things they learned by doing so.
Wreckage on the Road to Reconciliation
Once you’ve acknowledged that someone you love has hurt you, next comes the difficult decision of what to do about it.
Once you’ve acknowledged that someone you love has hurt you, next comes the difficult decision of what to do about it. Some of the people you meet in the Road to Reconciliation think they’ve found a short cut. …
Wreckage on the Road to Reconciliation
Versus Becoming an Impossible Martyr
Is the hurt you are experiencing from your loved one providing the meaning and purpose to your life?
Your life needs meaning and purpose. It makes your life worthwhile; it indicates your existence matters. That’s important. Sometimes, it’s the only thing that keeps you going. …
Wreckage on the Road to Reconciliation
One type you’ll see on the side of the road to reconciliation are the Deniers. You’ll see them, but they won’t see you. They’re blind, deaf, and insensible to touch. They only know what they want to know, what’s convenient to them, what fits in the worldview they feel they…
Overview
You’re wounded and angry. Someone close to you, who should love you, hurt you instead. This person might be a parent, a sibling, a child, a friend, a partner, or a spouse. Whoever it is; where you once had trust, you now have fear. You were attracted; now, you are…
A Field Guide to Feelings
Feelings are like the idiot lights on your car. They’re crude messages about your state of being. When the oil light goes on in your car, you know to check the oil. When you feel angry, you know there is a perceived injustice somewhere. You don’t ignore the idiot light…
The Road to Reconciliation
Getting hurt sucks. You’ll want to move on. Before you can, you’ll need to know where to go. What is it that you want, exactly?
If your wife has been sleeping with another man, you might not know how to heal. It’s not like she can undo what she did…
As if it wasn’t hard enough to deal with the people who hurt you who were supposed to love you, you also have to deal with their representatives you carry around in your head. Actual people you can divorce, send to jail, move across the country and never see again…
A Field Guide to Feelings
People go crazy because they’re bored. Workers hate their jobs because they’re bored. Partners cheat on their spouses because they are bored. Recovering addicts relapse becausethey’re bored. Also, writers write, painters paint, players play, and inventors invent because, if they did not, they would be bored. …
